#IAmACheerleader : What does that mean?

I am a Cheerleader

Valentine’s day is just around the corner and I am still single…

(Now I am not going to dwell on any negativity as God is in control and I will fall in love with the girl that God has for me in due time.)

You may have seen me using the hashtag #IAmACheerleader a lot on my Instagram and you may even be wondering what I meant by it. #IAmACheerleader is my state of mind: for everything I post, for everything I share and for everything I do, I want to be cheering on others.

That is why when you look at my Instagram and Social Media, you see me sharing images of my friends, family and people I love because I want to show them love and respect.

To everyone involved, you are all exceptional! #IAmACheerleader | Repost @amenaofficial ••• A game changing new campaign!!! 👏🏽❤️ So… lately I’ve had a complex relationship with my hair feeling lacklustre. When I take off my scarf, I want my hair to be more radiant – don’t we all? 🙆🏽‍♀️✨ I’m so excited and incredibly proud to announce that I‘m part of the new L’Oreal Paris Elvive World of Care Campaign which showcases Elvive’s breadth of products catering to a wide range of demanding hair types. I’m The Pink One which has been specially formulated for dull hair to boost shine. @lorealhair #WORLDOFCARE #ELVIVEXRANKIN #ALLWORTHIT #AD | Seeing Amena literally everywhere now and I couldn't be prouder. I scroll through her account and youtube with absolute pride as I really appreciate the content she creates. Everyone involved deserves all the success they get ❤❤❤ #amena #Youtube #youtuber #creative #creator #contentcreator #fashionblogger #styleblogger #fashionista #fblogger #instagood #aintnofearhere #loveconquersall #GodLovesYou #VictoryforuFashion Victorious Everyday.

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Being a cheerleader is a great practice: it’s a way to celebrate the people around you and lift them up. We live in a world that thrives on negativity, slander and gossip, so being encouraging, being uplifting is purely an act of defiance. Being a cheerleader is being defiantly supportive, uplifting and honest in spite of the negativity that plagues our world.

My goal is to continue to cheer others on in the hope that they will do the same and pass it on.

This blog post is short but it is an important one to me because this describes my outlook on life. This may also make sense of why I am not a blogger that posts solely about themselves, there’s nothing wrong with that, but that’s simply not who I am.

So long live being a cheerleader and I hope you join me on this journey. Just brighten someone’s day by being kind to them with no ulterior motive, simply just because.

Let’s be Cheerleaders together!


Victorious Everyday


4 years on… I’m so grateful to be alive!


Wow… I’m still here! I’m still alive and breathing.

Now to some that will be a trivial statement but if you’ve been on my blog before you’ll know why today is a day I hold so dearly.
4 years ago today at 10am, God saved me from killing myself.

I was in a dark place at 15 years old after 8 solid years of bullying, torment, inappropriate touching, racial ‘slurs‘, physical, mental and emotional abuse.
All this was happening whilst at school, a place you’re meant to feel safe. The most common thing I got from teachers was, “Darius is too sensitive,” or “Darius, just ignore the bullies!” 

Could someone please explain have to ignore people hitting you, spitting on you, touching you inappropriately, offending your race and family? How do you just ‘ignore‘ it?

Those were my darkest times. But I have come out on the other side and I now have a story to tell. I even went back to my old Sixth-form and did an assembly about my story: 

I know now that I went through all of that so I could help others and speak honestly and openly about how I dealt with certain situations.

If you’re reading this and you’re going through depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts or self harm, I pray that you’ll find someone to talk to. Because fighting this kind of pain on your own is so difficult.

This is also a place to share and ask for help if you need it.

And also, if you are reading this, praise the Lord because you are ALIVE! Don’t allow anyone to make you feel like your life isn’t worth living. I can’t express that any more.

You are worth it, you are beautiful and you are important. Never forget that!
Have a blessed day! 


Victorious Everyday. 

Many are dying yet we are silent – Time to stand up!


You may or may not know about the atrocities happening in Libya. The frightening things is that you probably are unaware of this as it hasn’t been on any major news platforms.

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/205476 – Sign to get parliament talking about this atrocity!
Libya is in Crisis and many people are dying, being raped, mutilated etc in the Libyan slave trade.

​https://www.change.org/p/united-nations-security-council-stop-slave-trade-in-libya?recruiter=152122650&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=psf_combo_share_initial.combo_new_control_progress_110217winners&utm_term=triggered -Sign this to get help Libya have a voice!

It’ll take a few seconds to sign these petitions. Let your voice be heard. Shine a light on slavery and let’s unite as humanity to end this.

https://usun.state.gov/contact – Send a letter to the US ambassador!
I pray that God shows us what to do on this time of crisis.

This will shared to both my blogs because I believe that we cannot be silent in times like these.


Victorious Everyday 

International Men’s Day – Be Men Kind


I am Back!

I feel like I haven’t blogged in such a long time. And back with an important message for the guys (But ladies this applies to you too)

Today is International Men’s day and this week has been Anti Bullying week and I wanted to bring them both together. 

We as guys are the worst at talking about our issues and this is why we are most likely to commit suicide. This is a serious problem.

I am tired of seeing my fellow brothers dying because they had no one to talk to in their time of need. This why I decided to write this.

The videos I filmed this week are all to do with appreciating people now whilst they are alive and respecting yourself.

Being Men Kind is so much more than just being kind to blokes, it’s about being respectful, caring and empathetic to all. 

Without this way of thinking, we often fall into being the opposite: disrespectful, rude and unreasonable which can commonly lead to bullying. 

I am someone who has been bullied for a fair majority of his life and most of the people who bullied me actually did so because they were not completely okay themselves. Imagine if someone was kind to them, if someone listened to them, who actually heard them out on all of the things they wanted to say. Maybe the outcome could have been different and they wouldn’t have been my bullies, they could have been my friends.

I truly believe in the power of love, kindness and compassion and we as men have a duty to help one another stop living miserably. 

My challenge for you is this: find a brother, a mate, a father, find someone who you can talk to about life, your struggles, your ‘man’ issues, your mental space etc. We all need somebody. The power of friendship and brotherhood (And Sisterhood obviously) is so strong when we honour each other and lift each other up.

My hope for everyone reading this is that you come out of your situation and that God will comfort you and take the pain away.

God bless you and go and have an amazing week!


Victorious Everyday

How I deal with my Insecurities


Insecurities are things that we all have for various reasons.

If you don’t have at least one, you’re most likely lying to yourself. You could be insecure about an essay you have written, unsure about your future plans, unhappy with your appearance etc.

These things will come and they will also go and I am going to talk you through some of mine and how I am trying to deal with them and hopefully, this will help you all out too.

Most of these insecurities are based on looks and image and that is why there are two blogs posts, one about the outfits and this one about how I feel about myself. There is also a new video on my Youtube channel that I had so much fun making. Make sure you check it out.


This is something I have been insecure about for years. I used to hate looking at myself in the mirror or even being topless in my own house. It was horrible! The only real way to deal with this one was to try to be healthier and exercise more. On a daily basis, I have to ride my bike pretty much everywhere and I have found out that in the last 3 months, I have lost 4 Stone from exercising and altering my diet slightly. I am where I would like to be with my body yet? No! But Am I proud of myself? You bet I am!

I am not aiming to have the traditional physique of a bodybuilder or a male model, (Even though I’d love to model one day) I am simply just aiming to make myself healthier and happier. I am no longer chasing this false idea of perfection. Yes, Abs & Pecs – and all the other muscle groups that I can’t quite remember – are great but they do not make the man, they do not make you perfect. I am learning to be proud of my imperfections through positive affirmations, having an accountability buddy (Someone you can rely on to help you when you’re feeling low, mine are my parents and my closest set of friends) and just by doing things I love – like taking pictures of myself, buying clothes, dancing etc. – regardless of what others think of me.


This section is not about me not liking being black cause I’ll tell you now, I am madly in love with the Melanin that God blessed me with.

For as long as I could remember, my skin has never been great with spots as I have eczema which leaves my skin patchy. I have recently found out that this encompasses a bigger skin condition that I have called Atopic Dermatitis. It’s nothing life threatening but it is just not the nicest thing to look at.

To deal with this, I try to keep my skin as moisturised as possible but I also never edit it out of my photos. You may zoom in on photos and see raised skin near my mouth or around my nose. That is the Atopic Dermatitis but I refuse to edit it out because it’s part of me. And I am now learning to live with it. And it doesn’t make me feel as insecure any more.

General Insecurities

I, like most, have plenty more insecurities than that but I try to address them in the same way. Putting God first and realising that in the grand scheme of life me being a bit rounder than my attractive friends or my skin being different to yours doesn’t really matter. We are all created with purpose and these insecurities can sometimes get in the way of us getting to our destiny. I choose everyday to never allow these insecurities to stop me and I hope you will choose to do the same!


Victorious Everyday

Why Boys need to watch Black Girls Rock!


Tonight, In the UK, Black Girls Rock is on tonight on BET at 9 pm. I am so excited to watch it as I love this event and I think that you should too. 

Taraji P Henson

This awards ceremony is called “Black Girls Rock”  but this is not limited to girls only. Guys should be watching as well. Why?

Over the last few years, I have been noticing a shift in how Black boys talk about Black girls which is frankly disturbing. Referring to your darker skin girls, sisters and mothers as ‘Ugly’ or Too Hood’ or ‘Man Like’ is a vast contrast to how they refer to lighter skin girls, sisters and mothers as ‘Peng’, ‘Hot’ or ‘Perfect woman.’

I believe that watching Black Girls Rock and the stories of these strong women who are changing the game and who are showing true beauty will help to change these sub-conscious opinions. 

Make sure you go and watch it tonight at 9pm: http://www.bet.com/live-tv.html 


Victorious Everyday